What if we won’t give up on love? What if love were the answer? It sounds so simple maybe even stupid. What if it were true? What does it mean anyway?
Not too long ago when two people of different races fell in love and wanted to live their lives together, society stopped them from symbolizing this by denying interracial marriage. That of course has changed. Today if two people of the same sex fall in love there are those who are fighting to deny their right to marry.
But people are people. Love is love. And marriage is marriage. Marriage is not easy but is worth fighting for, not against. Marriage requires letting go of individual autonomy, focusing on making the other person happy, being loyal and supportive, being patient and kind, and doing this over and over until death seems to separate us. I for one learned this again this week for the umpteenth time. I don’t have to like her dog but because I love my spouse I choose to be kind to the dog.
Who would not want this challenge and blessing for another human being? The sole purpose of marriage is not procreation. In fact today because the Earth may be nearing her carrying capacity, marriages that cannot procreate may be a special blessing. And adoption is a great way to go; my wife and I did it for one of our two with very happy results.
Love will find a way. The problem is not that there is too much love and commitment in the world but that there is too little. Let’s promote and enable love and lifelong commitment between people of any race, sexual orientation, religion, ethnicity, nationality, political persuasion or class. Let wedding bells ring! And then happiness, struggle and gratitude can flow forth and strengthen the larger community.